Whether you’re dreaming of delivering an effortlessly cool speech or, more realistically, you’re having nightmares about saying the wrong thing, I am here to help by sharing my top wedding speech tips!
Public speaking is never easy, but throw in the added pressure of making the newly weds proud, and even the most confident speaker can feel out of sorts. You’ve been entrusted with a key role, and naturally, you’ll want to shine in the spotlight.
As a wedding videographer, I’ve had the privilege of capturing countless speeches. From recording and editing hundreds of wedding videos, I’ve gathered valuable insights to help you refine your speech and ensure it not only resonates with the audience but also looks and sounds amazing on film. Below are my top tips, from a videographer’s perspective, to help you craft an unforgettable speech that will definitely make the cut!
Wedding Toast Etiquette
Key Speakers
It is customary for the father of the bride, the groom, and the best man to deliver the wedding speeches. However, more and more couples are breaking away from tradition and inviting the mother of the bride, siblings, bridesmaids or even the bride herself to take the mic.
From a videographer’s perspective, having a diverse group of speakers can create a more dynamic wedding video. Whether it’s a touching message from the groom or a humorous rap from the maid of honour, these moments add layers of storytelling that make the final video more engaging.
If you would like to get some more ideas about the order of your speeches or how to make them all fit in. RockMyWedding have a great guide on this for you to take a look at.
Time to Take to the Mic
Speeches typically occur after the wedding breakfast as a bridge between the meal and the evening festivities. But, some couples prefer to have speeches before the meal. From a video production standpoint, I would recommend that all of the speeches take place at the same time. Splitting the speeches between courses can feel a bit disjointed and be time-consuming, as the audio and video camera will take a minute or two to set up.
Capturing a Wedding Speech on Film
A wedding speech is more than just words; it’s an opportunity to celebrate the newly-weds and share your heartfelt sentiments in their wedding video. Your speech will be captured and preserved, offering the couple a chance to relive those precious moments for years to come. Therefore, it’s essential to focus not only on what you say but also how you say it. Delivering the speech well is as important as the words you recite. Learn more about how I capture wedding speeches from my recent wedding films.
Key Wedding Speech Tips from a Wedding Videographer
Don’t Look Directly at the Camera
One of the most common mistakes speakers make is looking directly into the camera. If you aren’t used to being filmed, it can be a distracting thought. But instead of thinking about the camera, focus on engaging with the audience. Speak to the newly-weds and guests, glancing around the room occasionally. This approach will not only help you connect better with your audience but will also ensure a more candid and natural look on film.
Mic Check
Good sound is crucial to a great wedding video. For larger gatherings, using a microphone ensures that your speech is heard clearly by all guests and is properly recorded for the video.
The microphone also gives you something to do with your hands, helping to ease nervousness.
Sound and Speech Quality
As your wedding videographer, I’ll use high-quality voice recorders and sound equipment to capture your voice as you deliver your speech. By using directional microphones, I can focus on your voice, minimising any background noise, so your message is heard loud and clear.
Practice, Practise, Practise
Rehearsing your speech is key to delivering it smoothly on the big day. The more you practice, the more naturally you’ll recite it in front of the audience. Practice with a friend, focusing on speaking slowly and clearly. This not only helps with nerves but also makes for better footage, as your words will be more coherent and easier to edit. A well-practised speech allows you to deliver your lines with confidence, which will shine through in the video.
Structure your Speech
A well-structured speech can greatly enhance the narrative of the wedding video. Personal stories and anecdotes that tie together with a common theme make for compelling content. As a videographer, I can weave these moments into the wedding film, creating a seamless story that reflects the emotions and highlights of the day. Need help writing your speech? Check out these wedding speech templates on Hitched UK.
Pacing Yourself
Timing is everything when it comes to speeches. A speech that’s too long can lose the audience’s attention, while one that’s too short might feel a little underwhelming. Try not to speak too quickly, which can be easy to do if you are nervous. Aim for your wedding speech to last around 10 minutes—this is generally enough to make a significant impact.
Pause for Applause
One of the key wedding speech tips is to remember to pause after key moments in your speech, such as jokes or heartfelt statements. These pauses allow the audience to react without drowning out the next part of your speech. Capturing the audience’s applause and laughter can add depth to the final video, too.
Speak from the Heart
Ultimately, the most memorable wedding speeches are unique and delivered from the heart. Share your genuine emotions, offer meaningful advice and express your gratitude for being part of the couple’s special day.
Editing Magic
After the big day, I’ll meticulously edit the footage to ensure your speech—and you—look your best. This includes enhancing the video quality, ensuring smooth transitions and selecting the most flattering angles. I’ll also clean up the audio, removing any background noise and adjusting levels for clarity. The result? A polished wedding video that captures the essence of your speech and the joy of the occasion.
I really hope you have found these wedding speech tips helpful, if you are looking for a wedding videographer to capture your lovely day and awesome speeches, please contact us to see if we are available for your wedding day!